Trauma work and why it's necessary
Most people we work with tell us "I don't have any trauma in my life, nothing happened to me growing up, I had a great childhood". This is normal. We also felt like this for most of our lives. The word Trauma does not necessarily mean that some big event happened that you need psychotherapy sessions to process.
Yes, some people do have "big" obvious Traumas, but what can sometimes hold us back even more are the smaller traumas that we are not aware of. How can you deal with something you are not aware is there? We all live and relive through "traumas" almost every day. A lot of them are micro, so small you won't be aware of them. Did you know that every time you talk about a painful memory or trauma, you reactivate it in your emotional, energetic, and physical bodies? As you speak, or even think, about an old issue, you experience it as if it is happening right now. Since your subconscious does not know the difference between current experience and past memory, for all intents and purposes, the trauma or painful experience is happening now.
When you re-activate old painful memories, your thoughts, words and emotions create a karmic energy that you unknowingly project out into your future. This karmic energy manifests in more of the same painful experiences, similar to the original issue. In other words, when issues come up without resolution, a karmic loop or pattern develops and validates your experience and beliefs around how you feel. This then feels like your truth or your reality.
Each time this karmic pattern manifests in real life situations, you re-experience the original wound and the current hurt simultaneously. When this occurs, it is a powerful opportunity to listen to the past wounds and clear them by listening to and acknowledging the current ones in real time.
Unfortunately, when an issue is re-activated, instead of using it as an opportunity to grow and clear out disempowering beliefs, many of us react by pushing the wounds down with numbing substances like food, drugs, internet, social media, TV, exercise, work, and a long list of other distractions.
Ignored and pushed away issues get stored in the body, until we release them. The body obliges as a storehouse for emotional wounds but it does take its toll, especially if issues are accumulated for long periods of time. Storing wounds in the body eventually weakens the body and immune system and invites illness and dis-ease, as well as causing depression, fatigue, stress, injuries and weight gain to name a few. The good news is that the body is ready to release issues, the moment you are.
When an unacknowledged issue is re-activated, don’t just push it down – take the time to finally listen to it. This means creating intentional space to feel your emotions and allow the issue to process through to resolve it in your system. Once you allow yourself to fully experience these emotions for the first time, without resistance, you will innately know what path to clear these issues is right for you.
Wounds are meant to be temporary. We are not meant to spend our lives carrying around past issues and hurts.
Anything that's human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be managed and then moved. When we can talk about our feelings, bring them to our awareness, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary every time we acknowledge them and give ourselves what we need in every moment.
We are passionate about helping others uncover their patterns and shed the layers of themselves that are disempowering them and keeping them stuck and in suffering.
Listening to yourself is the greatest skill you can ever learn.
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HONESTY & SElF REFLECTION
H O N E S T Y & S E L F R E F L E C T I O N
I’m going through a massive “honest” phase at the moment.
I feel like it’s coming from a space where I’m tired of people (myself included) not saying how they really feel or what they really think out of fear of what others will think or how others will react or judge them.
We all tell ourselves stories everyday about “who we are” and “what we do”.
In our very essence we are all the same, all made of the same stuff, all just trying to live a joyful life and experience great things.
But we can get trapped by our stories.
“I could never do that, I’m not confident enough” ... nice story.
“I will never look like that, I’m not genetically gifted enough” ... nice story.
“I will never be in her position, I’m
Not talented enough” ... nice story.
What if we take the time to rewrite our stories, even as we tell them, start speaking from a place of truth:
“if I work hard enough, I can achieve that too” this is true.
We often get caught up in just agreeing with what everyone has to say (positive or negative) even if we know it’s not how we truly feel...just to feel like we are on the same wave as them, feel part of a tribe that holds themselves to certain values that we agree with because people like to have people on the same wave as them. It’s why clubs and society’s and groups exist. We are social beings, we crave the feel good factor that comes with people agreeing with us. It’s uncomfortable to have someone disagree with you.
But If you are honest there is no inner turmoil and if you tell people how you really feel even if it makes them and you uncomfortable it’s going to help you both grow and elevate and talk about things that are true instead of getting caught up in fruitless gossip.
Honesty creates clarity and also makes you more respectable and builds your character.
I’d be happy if when people think of me they would say "she spoke with convincing honesty about everything" the reason honesty is convincing is because it’s coming from a place of truth. There is nothing and no one to convince. It just “is”.
So today and every other day for the rest of my existence, I’m practicing honesty in everything I do and say. Encouraging others to do this too ☺️❤️🙏🏼 more creates more.
Tell me in a comment what is your biggest fear and how you feel about honesty, even give examples of how being honest made you or someone else feel....and I’ll reply
Yours in truth
ABOUT THE AUTHORS
IFBB PRO Athletes Rosie Rascal Harte & Claire McGrath on a mission to spread our combined learnings from many disciplines and industries to help you on your journey of personal development with your health, vitality and abundance. We are here to guide you to manifesting the life and relationship with food you have always wanted. How we relate to food affects so many different things in our lives that we may not even be aware of. We will help you discover what's holding you back and give you the tools to manage yourself to take you forward for life.